P/s: This blog piece on romantic essential oils is solely recommended for mature groups only. *wink*

The second month of 2019 is finally here. February is also known as the Month of Love. Everyone knows the 14th day of February is Valentine’s Day, a day when everyone celebrates love. Some of us have been in love for decades, some for a few years, some for a few months, weeks, days, and some had just started to fall in love.

In celebration of the most romantic day of the year, we’ve prepared a list of romantic essential oils that you can use to enhance the romantic atmosphere on your Valentine’s Day date. People have been using essential oils to boost libido and sexual drive for thousands of years. It was known that ancient Egyptian writers and artists often created sensual images by referring to scents and fragrances in the context of sexual relationships.

Even in modern erotica, we always see authors describing the scent of each character so we could imagine their natural scent that can trigger the pheromones, increasing the sexual appeal of the character. This is because as human beings, we are strongly impacted by fragrance and aroma. Thus, it is easy to understand how smelling essential oils can have a powerful impact on us physically and emotionally. Aroma has proven to stimulate the senses, create a more pleasant environment, and increase desire.

Romance is a special, intimate mood that everyone would like to experience once in their lives. Being romantic, however, is quite different from sexy and erotic, and it does not have to be passionate. Romantic can range from passionate kiss under the Eiffel Tower, to cuddling on the couch while it’s raining. Either way, romance makes us feel amazing. It makes us feel loved. It is that special moment and bonding that we create with our special someone.

Romantic bonding can actually create a healthy relationship with our better half when day and in and out we are too busy handling the family and work affairs that we might neglect our other half. Now that Valentine’s Day is approaching, you may have planned something romantic on that special day, but it won’t harm anyone to bring a little more romance by using some romantic essential oils to spice up your Valentine.

But before we get into this, always, always remember to dilute essential oils first before using them topically to avoid unwanted skin irritation, sensitivity, or burns. One of the best ways to enjoy essential oils is to just to diffuse them.

6 Romantic Essential Oils

  1. Jasmine Absolute

Jasmine absolute essential oil is extracted from jasmine flower. It is a popular natural remedy for improving mood, overcoming stress, and balancing hormones. It has also been used for hundreds of years in parts of Asia as a natural remedy for depression, anxiety, emotional stress, low libido, and insomnia.

Jasmine oil is well-known for its natural aphrodisiac (arouses sexual instinct) property. It is said to have a “seductive” scent that can increase sensuality. In fact, jasmine oil is sometimes nicknamed “queen of the night” due to the strong smell of jasmine flower at night and also because of its libido-boosting qualities.

Apart from its aphrodisiac properties, jasmine essential oil is also great in aiding to fight low energy or chronic fatigue syndrome, relieves stress and anxiety. Definitely a good way to set the mood before dimming the lights for a romantic dinner.

  1. Sandalwood

As a lover of historical romance novels, I noticed that most authors will describe their main male character as having the scent of wet ground with sandalwood, or musk with sandalwood, or sandalwood with a hint of mint. So I’ve always been curious as to how sandalwood smells like, and why was it because of this scent that the female leads would be very attracted to the male character.

Over the years, I found out that sandalwood is frequently used as a base in perfumes, incense, cosmetics, and even aftershave. With its woody, sweet smell, it blends easily with other scents. This part explains why every Victorian English gentleman character smells like sandalwood.

Sandalwood essential oil also has a natural aphrodisiac. Practitioners of Ayurvedic medicine traditionally use sandalwood as an aphrodisiac. Since it’s a natural substance that can increase sexual desire, sandalwood helps to increase libido and may help men with impotence or who suffer from premature ejaculation. Now that explains why every breathing female character is attracted to the gentlemen.

  1. Rose Absolute

A must-have for Valentine’s Day would be anything related to the rose. Rose bouquet, rose-shaped chocolate, rose box, rose perfume, rose petals, rose EVERYTHING. So why not get rose absolute essential oil for this day as well? Not only rose is a beautiful flower with a sweet scent that represents romantic love, but it also has many therapeutic benefits.

Rose is well-known for its anti-depressant properties, even back in the ancient days. Honestly, have you ever seen anyone smell rose and not smile right after? The sweet scent can definitely put one in a good mood, getting rid of all the stress and problems weighing one’s mind.

Hence, rose absolute essential oil is very helpful to men with sexual dysfunction related to performance anxiety and stress. It has also been reported that it can help to balance sex hormones, which can contribute to increased sex drive.

Now you know rose isn’t just all about romantic gestures.

  1. Ylang Ylang

Ylang ylang is often linked to spooky myths in Malay folklore. Due to the flower’s stronger smells during twilight and dawn, it was often said the ylang ylang tree has a spiritual guardian, almost like a succubus (a demon in female form). But, good thing it was only a tale. Ylang ylang actually means ‘flower of flowers’ due to its overwhelmingly sweet floral scent.

Did you know that ylang ylang is actually one of the key ingredients used in the infamous perfume Chanel No. 5?

Anyways, the reason why our grandparents thought a succubus was guarding the ylang ylang tree is that it somehow increases one’s sexual drive. Although it has nothing to do with supernatural factors, ylang ylang actually does have aphrodisiac effects. In fact, in Indonesia, it is still commonly practiced that they would decorate the bed of newlyweds on their wedding night due to this particular property. Ylang ylang has also been shown to act as a natural impotence remedy since it can help increase the libido of both men and women.

No more having nightmares about the ylang ylang tree!

  1. Ginger

Yes, it is a weird addition to this list, but as they say, never judge an oil by its smell! Generally, ginger is commonly used by women who have experienced menstruation to ease blood flow, aid menstrual cramps, or to mothers who are in taboo to keep them warm from the inside. As an essential oil, it is a warming one that works as antiseptic, stimulant, laxative, and tonic.

Ginger essential oil addresses issues such as impotence and loss of libido, by increasing sexual desire. Impotence, also known as erectile dysfunction, is the inability for a man to sustain an erection long enough for normal, satisfying sexual intercourse. Due to its warming and stimulating properties, ginger essential oil serves as an effective and natural aphrodisiac, as well as a natural remedy for impotence as well.

  1. Patchouli

Patchouli essential oil is a highly valuable product in the fragrance industry and its quality changes depending upon raw material age and oil storage. So just like wine, patchouli essential oil gets better with age. At one point of history, patchouli essential oil has the reputation as the scent of the hippy generation. Because of this, many people stayed away from this scent in the 60s, believing it smells like a body odour.

However, society has moved past the stigma, and more recently, it’s been used in incense, insect repellents, and alternative medicines. Patchouli has also been used in perfumes for centuries.

Patchouli essential oil has the ability to stimulate hormones and increase your libido as well. It can be considered as one of the natural remedies for impotency and erectile dysfunction. Having been used as an aphrodisiac for years, patchouli essential oil can help to boost your testosterone and estrogen levels, subsequently causing a huge impact on your intimate relationships.

Now, let’s be honest and say that not all of this oil smells great when on its own. It is a good thing that we can always toy around with our essential oils and make our own blends and scent. Usually, the best balancing oil would be a citrus essential oil or another flower essential oil. So it is up to you to figure out how to turn one or more of these aphrodisiac essential oils into a wondrous, romantic, and sensuous scent.

You can try out a few romantic essential oil blends recipes suggested below!

6 Romantic Essential Oil Blends Recipes

Blend 1: Deep & Mysterious

10 drops of rose absolute

10 drops of palmarosa

10 drops of ylang ylang

5 drops of clary sage

Blend 2: Romantic Rose

10 drops of rose absolute

10 drops of geranium

3 drops of bergamot

2 drops of patchouli

3 drops of rosewood

Blend 3: Passionate Embrace

10 drops of rose absolute

7 drops of lemon

4 drops of rosewood

3 drops of ylang ylang

Blend 4: Magic Moments

12 drops of rosewood

8 drops of sandalwood

8 drops of rose absolute

5 drops of orange

3 drops of geranium

Blend 5: Tender Kiss

5 drops of rose absolute

5 drops of bergamot

3 drops of lavender

2 drops of frankincense

Blend 6: Forest of Love

5 drops of rose absolute

4 drops of sandalwood

3 drops of patchouli

If you are having a romantic dinner at home, then you can diffuse these romantic essential oils or blends while you are eating using a ceramic candle burner since it would set the right mood and ambiance with the soft glowing candle lights! If diffusing it during dinner is not possible, you can always diffuse it once you get home. *wink*

Apart from diffusing, you can actually mix these blends with a carrier oil or natural beauty oils of your choice to start an aromatherapy massage with your partner. Natural beauty oils like sweet almond oil, argan oil, virgin coconut oil, or jojoba oil are a few great oils to dilute essential oils safely before applying them to the skin.

An aromatherapy massage is healing, soothing, and nurturing, but it can also be sensual and erotic. When sexual feelings between lovers are not urgent, then slow, sensuous and erotic foreplay can heighten each person’s enjoyment of the other.

So dim the lights, set up candles, play slow, romantic music, prepare to massage your beloved. Decide how you need to be dressed, and play the teasing masseuse.

You know how to do it better. *wink*




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